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Some Places Are Made for Matchmaking

  • By President Matt Proctor
  • Published 06 15, 2023
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Some Places Are Made for Matchmaking.

I laughed out loud at the headline: 鈥淏ible College to Provide Complimentary Wives to Unmarried Ministry Graduates.鈥 The Babylon Bee is a Christian satire website鈥攖hey write fake articles for laughs鈥攁nd this one 鈥渞eported鈥: 鈥淎t Moody Bible College, spring is always a mad dash as unmarried seniors look for a wife before graduation to support them in ministry (and write their sermons).鈥

鈥淏ut now,鈥 the fake article said, 鈥渁dministration will help. They鈥檒l assign unmarried seniors a wife along with their degrees. Moody鈥檚 president explained, 鈥榃e have to give these men all they need to succeed in ministry. That means a good wife. We can give them all the biblical education in the world, but if you don鈥檛 have a good wife, you鈥檙e not gonna make it.鈥欌

Ha! The article, of course, was just a silly spoof. But it got two things right: 1. A good spouse will help you in ministry, and 2. Bible college is a great place to find that special someone. Some places are made for matchmaking.

I鈥檓 going to ask your help in playing Bible college matchmaker. Why? Keep reading鈥β

When you come to a well in an Old Testament story, what kind of story are you in? Chances are, you鈥檙e in a romance. In the OT, wells are where men go to find wives. Isaac鈥檚 wife Rebekah, Jacob鈥檚 wife Rachel, and Moses鈥 wife Zipporah were all found at wells.

And don鈥檛 forget John 4. When the Samaritan woman meets Jesus after five husbands and a live-in boyfriend, Jesus is the seventh man in her life (John鈥檚 favorite number for completion). And as we read, because they meet at a well, we understand: she鈥檚 finally meeting the perfect Bridegroom.

Some places are made for matchmaking, and Bible colleges are modern-day 鈥渨ells.鈥 When we were Ozark Bible College, our nickname was Ozark 鈥淏ridal鈥 College. (When OBC President Boatman heard that Gwen Gardner accepted fellow student Sam Stone鈥檚 proposal, he said, 鈥淚 guess her heart has turned to Stone.鈥) It鈥檚 still true. In the evenings, our campus looks like Noah鈥檚 Ark: lots of students walking around two by two.

And that鈥檚 a good thing. Don鈥檛 get me wrong: Bible college鈥檚 primary purpose isn鈥檛 to connect couples, and you can have a rich life and ministry as a single (like Jesus and Paul). But I鈥檓 asking your help with Bible college matchmaking because I believe it鈥檚 a kingdom win. Why? Here鈥檚 how I met my wife Katie鈥β

At the end of my freshman year, I was prepping to head out on a 鈥渃amp team,鈥 a singing group of four OCC students traveling to Christian camps all summer. But right before the tour began, our soprano got mononucleosis鈥攐ut for the summer! The camp team coordinator Jeff called a few days later: 鈥淢att, I鈥檝e got a new soprano for your team. Come to my office, and I鈥檒l introduce you to her.鈥

I鈥檒l never forget the day. It was a bright, sunny May afternoon, and I walked across campus into Jeff鈥檚 office where he introduced me鈥攆or the very first time鈥攖o a young sophomore named Katie Bunton. I remember shaking her hand and looking into her eyes and thinking鈥

鈥淏ehold, God is good.鈥

She was beautiful! I quickly found out: Katie was also intelligent and talented and a natural born leader. At camps all summer, I saw her get up early each morning, slip off to a quiet place with her blue-cover Bible, and spend time with the Lord. That鈥檚 when I knew: I was in love.

And I knew I had no chance. I was a skinny, immature 19-year-old with a dumb haircut, a gap between my teeth, and bad taste in sweaters. But I took my shot. At the end of the summer, I asked her for a date. Katie鈥檚 answer? She wasn鈥檛 ready for that. She鈥檇 be glad to be friends. Ouch.

So here鈥檚 what I did鈥

Look at 鈥済irlfriend鈥 and 鈥済irl friend鈥: that little space in the middle is called the 鈥渇riendzone,鈥 and that鈥檚 suddenly where Katie had put me. For 50 years, in 17,897 Peanuts strips, Charlie Brown pined for the Little Red-Haired Girl, but he never did anything about it. I determined: I would not be Charlie Brown.

That fall semester, my wooing offensive began. I hung out with Katie every chance I got. Library tables and Goodman Dorm lobby couches became my 鈥渨ell,鈥 and at those places鈥攃onversation by conversation鈥攖he match was slowly made. Nothing fancy. Just time together. But by December, when I asked her out again, she said yes, and seventeen months later we were married. Friendzone to endzone!

Here鈥檚 why that matters鈥

Last month we celebrated 32 years of marriage. By God鈥檚 grace, over those 32 years, we鈥檝e ministered to many people, sharing Christ way better together than we would have separately.

And the best thing we鈥檝e done together? Our six kids. Malachi 2:15 says, 鈥淒idn鈥檛 the Lord make you one with your wife?...And what does he want? Godly children from your union.鈥 God is in the matchmaking business to make next-generation believers. We鈥檙e far from perfect parents. But our six kids are serving the Lord鈥攖hree in vocational ministry (each found their spouse at Ozark)鈥攁nd now more people are hearing about Jesus.

Why does Bible college matchmaking matter? Because a good match multiplies ministry.聽

I think of Charley (OBC 鈥57) and Judy Greer, another Bible college romance. Together they ministered to thousands, and now all five of their kids and many of their fifteen grandchildren are in ministry, sharing Christ around the world. I could name hundreds of Ozark couples who鈥攖hrough their marriage and their offspring鈥攈ave seen their ministry multiplied, like five loaves and two聽fish to a multitude.

And it all started with a little Bible college matchmaking.

That鈥檚 where I need your help. More ministry marriages have started at OCC library tables and dorm lobby furniture than I can count鈥攎any first met at those 鈥渨ells.鈥 But it鈥檚 time to replace the library tables and some dorm lobby furniture this summer. The cost for library tables is $10,000, and one dorm鈥檚 lobby furniture is $10,000. Would you help us replace these tables, chairs, and couches for the next generation of Christian leaders?

I heard someone say: when you buy a drill bit, you鈥檙e really buying a hole in your wall, and you鈥檙e actually buying a family picture hanging safely from the anchor in that hole. We buy things, not for their features (carbon steel drill bit!), but for their benefits (family picture on the wall).

If you can help us toward that $20,000 goal, you鈥檙e not just buying solid wood library tables, but a place where students will dig into God鈥檚 Word. You鈥檙e not just buying comfy lobby chairs and couches, but a place where students will build friendships. And you might just be providing a place鈥攌inda like Jacob鈥檚 Well鈥攚here marriages are made and ministry is multiplied.

Some places are made for matchmaking. So would you consider a generous gift to provide tables, chairs, and couches for the next generation of Ozark students?

Thanks for considering this, and thank you for partnering in our mission. Last month, we sent out 130 more graduates, and whether they minister as singles or couples, our graduates are taking the good news of Jesus Christ to the world鈥ecause of friends like you.

Yours in Christ,

Matt Proctor
President

P.S. Charley Greer is with the Lord now, but Judy still cooks in our cafeteria. Their kids and grandkids have ministered in鈥攂y my count, at least鈥擟alifornia, Colorado, Georgia, Illinois, Japan, Kansas, Mexico, Missouri, New York, Oklahoma, Tennessee, Texas, and Thailand. One marriage=ministry multiplied stateside and worldwide!